Going it alone

09/23/2009 - 17:42

Ciao a tutti!Ever since I was young I have had the Italian beat in my heart and want to live there one day.  So over the past 3 years I have been really discovering Italy and it's people trying to find the area that feels right for me.  I know I prefer north and central Italy to the south.  Now I've spoken to people, I've read magazine articles, books, forums, watched tv programmes all about people who have made the move to Italy, but the one thing I have never been able to find is someone who has done it alone.  It's always people who have moved with their family, with their partner, to be with their partner etc etc, where are the brave souls who have followed their dream and made the move on their own? Quite often all these people who have made the move with someone say to me; "just go for it, you'll find work, you speak some of the language, it'll be fine".  These are also the same people who wouldn't go for a coffee or dinner on their own let alone move to a different country on their own!  So I'd like to hear the good and bad experiences and any advice from the solo movers - if they exist that is?!Grazie e ciao 


Well initially many years ago I came to Italy on my own but I did have a job. Years later I returned and eventually married (an Italian) but I would think the difficulties of adjusting to a new country, culture and language exist with or without a partner. Maybe it's easier if you are outgoing and flexible in your outlook and expectations.

Ciao Lisiamc,Thank you so much for this link, I've just read a few pages and it really is an interesting read.  Great to hear the accounts and feelings from someone who has been brave enough to do it all on her own.  Gives me the inspiration I'm looking for.  Brava! Just need to hear from any other solo movers but ones who didn't have the luxury of retirement and had to find work. Grazie! 

Hi,the fact that you are interested to the Italian world, means that you are already there!It's always very nice to hear about people who would like to visit the country where I was born. That's even great that people would like to live there! It's means that you love Italian people and Italian culture, the atmosphere that you breathe when you are in Italy, the food - or at least you're aware about the freshness of products and the great regional recipes.From my own experience, I wish to alert you about life in Italy:

  • bureaucracy: be aware of long queues to the post office, or to go and come from office to office for papers that should take minutes
  • taxes: many are learning a sad fact: people who live in Italy are over-taxed
  • occupation: after the credit crunch it's really difficult to find a job in Italy

That wasn't meant to get you depressed, so I'm going fast to show you some great advantages of living in Italy and give you a background of what life in Italy would be like:

  • food, open-air markets in Italian villages have cheap and fresh products.
  • people, they are always happy to help somebody and give support when you need it, they often meet and eat or like to have a walk (passeggiata) in places surrounded by nature such as: countryside, lakeside, seaside.
  • english language, all children and youngsters learn English at school, so you'll be able to find someone to communicate with, and I thing you'll need it especially at the beginning of your life in Italy

There would be so many things to talk about living in Italy. Browsing the community you'll learn more about those things and will be able to talk with people who may have already experienced a whole new life in Italy and could be a good guide to find the right place for you.Good luck!   

Ciao Valentina.Grazie for your welcome and comments.  This community has so many interesting and relevant topics, it's a great resource.It seems the finding work issue comes up all the time and the issue of short term contracts.  The few Italian friends I have who live both here and in Italy always complain about the work situation - although one of them is training to become a Priest so I doubt he faces the same struggles as the rest of the Italian people!  Only the other week I was speaking to a guy in Sardinia who was telling me he has to have two jobs to survive and works 7 days a week and that this is normal for people in Italy?!!  Now I wouldn't be looking for specific jobs because I'm open to most things, but wouldn't want to be working so hard that I'm too tired to enjoy the little time I do have off.  I think my next step is to live and study there for a few weeks and observe and talk to the people some more.Every country has it's problems, anyone would be a fool to think otherwise.  It's just that experiencing these things alone can be a tougher journey than when you are able to share the experience and problems with someone.  This is why I'm so intent to find people who have made the move alone and how they coped.Despite the negativity I hear, I also hear their love for the food, weather and people, and it's this that I also share.  Yes I admit it, I'm addicted, I am an Italophile!!As the Italians say;  "in bocca al lupo!"Ciao

I can think of 3 women who have come to this area of Marche alone, all with different circumstances, but the main factor has been that they have all learnt or spoken excellent Italian and have either set up work here as B&B or had enough money to survive without working. I dont think it has been easy for any of them. I would consider your options very carefully, but wish you good luck.A

I'm thinking along the same lines as Passiflora.  For family and financial reasons I'm unlikely to be able to make a permanent move for a while.  Also, everyone's experience will be different so even with all the advice etc available I think what I'm going to do is perhaps rent somewhere for 6 months or so and see how I get on.  Just going for it sounds great, but doing it in stages might be a less scary option for people doing it on their own.  I'm lucky, as a nurse I'd be able to get temporary work back in the UK if I decided to do it over a period of time.Good luck Passiflora!

In reply to by Guen

if you are a good qualified nurse you could get work here in the italian nhs almost immediately it woyuld of course be necessary to speak enough italian but you'd be snapped up they've even started hiring spanish and polish nurses because they vcan't find enough here ,it's the same hard underpaid work that it is in the uk btw but depends to some extent where you would be etc.